By Tammy Shaklee, Founder, He’s For Me
You say you’re ready for this. Ready to take the leap of faith into love. You want a compatible partner. A good man (or woman). And yes, let’s be honest, one that you will be hot for not only now, but years down the road. And yet something always gets in your way. Don’t worry, we’ve all been there. That’s where a matchmaker can step in and help you see what perhaps you couldn’t realize on your own. Take it from me.
When I was 35, frustrated still being single. I used to say to myself, “I’m a good person, I work hard, I play hard, I love animals and the elderly. I’m stable, trustworthy, and giving. Where is my person?!” That is when I knew, I needed to reach out for a professional hand to hold. To help me with my seemingly endless search.
I thought I was pretty open-minded and had an open heart (like most of our clientele think as well, in the beginning). To me, intellectual men were who I was attracted to most often. My entire life, I’ve worked for them, been taught by them, mentored by them, and tend to surround myself with them. Now I wanted to date them. Find me “uber smart” and we’ll see if there’s a connection. The next step was to realize what kind of match I would be for them. And believe me, there were days I thought I was a 10, and days I thought I was no more than a 5. But the reality? Seriously? An…..8.
As a certified matchmaker, we in the industry often provide our clients unlimited dating coaching. And our coaching educates every client, that he’s really an 8, looking for another 8 to love him back. It’s that simple, folks. Come on! No one is a 10. Everyone has his stuff. Each of us is flawed. The goal is to find the right person to love you for exactly who you are. And who you are not.
With the matchmaking process, we refine who we seek, and who will choose us back. A compatible match. (Height used to matter…until it didn’t. Exact age used to matter….until it didn’t.) Let’s focus on the core qualities and values that make a great person. This week alone, we have dozens of men meeting quality bachelors, men they would have never met otherwise. And what do they all have in common? They are gay, seeking a long-term relationship, and have the qualities others are seeking.
I didn’t want to walk alone through life. So my matchmaker held my hand….until they put me in the hands of the great man who became my husband. Reach out to your friends, family, colleagues, and let them know you are serious about finding your person. Just as you are. You’re ready for this. There is no denying. I did it. You can too.
For more information on traditional introductions, courting, and dating for today’s modern gay man, visit He’s For Me, offline, personal matchmaking designed exclusively for select gay men seeking a long-term relationship – at www.H4M.com and like us on the H4Mmatchmaking Facebook Page for daily inspiration on finding love. #loveislove
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